At my children’s school, near the playground, is a bench. It’s called “The Burns Buddy Bench”. You sit there if you need a friend. I’ve seen kids feeling left out take a seat at the bench. Within moments another child sits beside them. Soon they are off and happy again. It’s a fantastic idea and really makes all the children feel included. As an adult I still need a buddy from time to time.
I was going through the photos on my iPhone today when I came across the photo I took of the bench. I forgot that I had taken the picture a few weeks ago. I originally was going to write about what I’ve witnessed with the kids and childhood friendships.
Today though, it made me think of a couple of “buddies” I have relied on recently. I have been feeling a bit frustrated because of work lately and it carries over into my personal life.
My one buddy is a friend named Russ who I met at work years ago. He does essentially the same job as I do- but has done it longer than me. He understands exactly the frustration that we go through on a regular basis. We often share stories together after a shift ends. I’m really lucky that I can talk with him so openly (Aka: Our bitch session). A couple of years ago, we even went on a roadtrip to Disneyland with his family and had a great time.
The other buddy I have relied heavily on is my wife. We have been inseparable since we met sixteen years ago. The longest we were apart was for two weeks when I went away for training one time. Beyond that, it’s been less then 72 hours at a time. Even that is rarely happening. We talk and text daily. I could go on about her for days on end… I’m very lucky to have her in my life.
I have numerous other friends who are there when I need them as well. A quick text, phone call or visit makes me happy. Sometimes when my friends are alone on the bench, I end up being the buddy who sits beside them to cheer them up.
Having a buddy when you need it is a wonderful feeling. The world needs more Buddy Benches.