I often see in my children their potential to do something great with their lives. I then begin beaming with pride at all of those “what-if” scenarios. Architect? Musician? Olympian? The future is wide open. My wife and I push them to do their best at whatever it is they are working on. The results thus far have been rewarding. Both to us as parents, and the look of satisfaction on our children’s faces.
My two oldest came home with excellent report cards this week. All “A’s” and one “B” this semester. After telling them how proud we were with their grades, we did the inevitable- we asked how they thought they could improve that one grade from a “B” to an “A”. Not that they needed to improve it. They are already getting really good grades on a regular basis.
It takes hard work to get those grades. My wife and I are constantly reminding them about homework and practice. Sometimes I worry that if we weren’t doing that, how good would the grades be? We try not to hound the kids and make it miserable to get the work done. Just friendly reminders, daily, every day, like a broken record.
Even though our kids are school smart, they astound me with moments of stupidity they portray in everyday life. As if the part of the brain that makes them function is on the fritz. Today for example, my middle daughter couldn’t figure out how to plug a Zip drive into the USB and then how to open the files on the computer. It’s something she’s done before in the past, but today- she needed guidance. She is also the only member of the household who seems to get paper jammed in the printer…
Tonight our oldest daughter was asked to wash dishes and make dinner. She couldn’t figure out how to scrub a pot using something besides the wash cloth. She then asked how to drain the water from a pot so that we could enjoy perogies. Our children spend a lot of time in the kitchen with us. I’ve even tried explaining how and why we prepare foods the way we do. But it just doesn’t stay with them.
How will they survive in the real world when they move out?? Don’t you dare tell me they are living with me forever.
But in all of their wisdom and stupidity, they are great kids with lots of potential. Opening up their eyes and minds to gather knowledge is the challenge. Like throwing cooked pasta at a wall- sometimes it sticks and sometimes it falls to the floor.