Sometimes hostility remains even after you have “Buried The Hatchet”. I don’t tend to keep in contact with people who piss me off. And it takes a lot to get me to that point.
But I also know that I have lost many so called friends, or missed out on job opportunities, even dating when I was younger because of someone’s influence on the lady person I liked. Opinions matter to nearly everyone in the known universe. Opinions about oneself, each other, current events- you name it, people have an opinion. And it sucks.
It sucks being a quality Grade “A” asshole. It sucks being treated like you’re second class. It sucks that not everyone shares the same opinion. It sucks that we feel things. It sucks that we can’t be emotionless drones. It sucks…
But it doesn’t suck. It means we are weeding out those around us that aren’t of benefit. There are people we need to lose contact with because they are jerks. Or perhaps because of the lack of their intellect makes them appear as jerks. Maybe we lose a friend or two because they are taking something of value away from us. Maybe it’s emotional, maybe it’s tangible- maybe it’s the air we breathe. But losing people from our lives means they have run their course.
Being courteous doesn’t mean I have to be nice. People need to breathe and eat- you won’t see me choking the shit out of a dumbass, no matter how badly I want to. I’m also 100% sure that I’ve been on the receiving end of that hate. Come on, I have a younger sister- she’ll tell you how great of a big brother I was in the past.
Stop caring what people think of you. Start caring about what you think of o̶t̶h̶e̶r̶s̶ yourself. Just be the best you that you can be. Dammit I ranted.
Here’s a picture of a rhododendron from my front yard. It don’t give a shit what you think. It’s pretty because it’s designed to be pretty. Not because someone told it to change.